Paglia is always worth reading, and I recommend her essay.
There’s no denying the heartbreaking difficulties she recounts. Her advice is to leave youth to the young, while accepting the benefits of maturity.
In my opinion, the bottom line is this:
If your success is based partly on something ephemeral (like youth) and partly on something more permanent (like talent and hard work), then
Gratefully accept the ephemeral benefits while they last, and gracefully let go of them when it’s time;
Focus your efforts and attention on the more permanent things; and
Always remember that your value as a person doesn’t depend on popularity or worldly success. Each person has infinite value, and that applies to you.